Support For Men

We offer confidential support, signposting and information to men experiencing abuse.

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Call us on 01483 776822 (9am-9pm) 

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For men, it is often difficult to find someone to talk to that understand and can help.  

 

Trying to explain to family friends is difficult and often they can’t grasp what we are saying or don’t believe us, especially if our abusive partner appears to the outside world as loving and caring. 

 

Understanding that we are in an abusive relationship is often difficult to realise until the situation becomes extreme, especially if the abuse is coercion and control rather than easily identified physical abuse. 

 

Whatever your circumstances, there is no need to feel no one will understand you, are not alone in your experience. The Your Sanctuary Male Outreach Service can help by speaking to a male who can provide: 

 

Listening support 

Information & Advice  

 

 

What is...? 

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Controlling behaviour: a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.  

  

Coercive behaviour: an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.

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Domestic Abuse or Domestic Violence: any incident of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or

family members, regardless of their gender or sexuality. 

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Types of abuse: 

(including some examples, but not limited to) 

Physical: 

Hitting, punching, slapping, biting, throwing things at you.

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Emotional: 

Belittling you, putting you down, name calling. 

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Psychological: 

Gaslighting, threats and manipulation. 

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Sexual: 

Not always physical. Can include making you perform sexual acts you don't want to, coercing or manipulating you into doing things you don't want to do. 

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Financial and Economic:

Controlling your access to money, taking wages, stop you from working, accumulating debt in your name, controlling your access to resources e.g. food, clothing, transport.  

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Coercive Control:

Pattern of behaviour over time to exert control and power over you. Often with the threat or use of physical or sexual violence. Coercive control is a criminal offence. 

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More examples can be found on our 'What is Domestic Abuse' page. 

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Further Resources:  

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Man Kind Initiative  

Call: 01823 334244

Website: https://www.mankind.org.uk/ 

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Men's Advice Line 

Call: 0808 8010327

Website: https://mensadviceline.org.uk/

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